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GRIEF
Grief can be one of the most profound and deeply
life changing of all human experiences.
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We will all experience grief to one degree or another during our lifetime whether it be from the loss of a loved one, a pet, your job, a close relationship, health, home or finances. Perhaps you have witnessed or experienced a traumatic event.
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Life can change in an instant demanding that you focus on the areas in which it has affected you. Whether you see the change coming or not, the true reality of change happens in real time. There is no true way to imagine how your foundations may be shaken, or how your beliefs, responsibilities and identity may change.
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Grief can throw you into an unpredictable obstacle course of powerful thoughts and difficult emotions, life affecting physical reactions and logistical hurtles.
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Grief Is A Process With Which We Must Engage
Grief is an unpredictable organic process that each and every one of us will experience in our own unique way. What works to support and heal one person may not do the same for the next. It is up to each one of us to choose our own methods of healing.
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There are no designated paths or stages to which grieving adheres as there is no real destination marking the end of it. That being said, we do not have to be bound to the weight of grief forever. You will feel the grief of absence for as long as you love who or what you have lost. If you engage in the process of grieving, the weight of your pain will lighten as your mind, body and spirit come to a place of deeper acceptance, understanding and growth. The goal to keep in focus when grieving is to bring yourself to a place where grief has been peacefully folded into the moments of everyday life. It is about allowing your life to flourish side by side while also honoring the legacy of your loss.
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How Do You Engage With Grief?
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Building a support network is a first and vital step in helping you move through the grieving process. This may include family members, friends, a neighbor, a grief support group through a local church, school, community center or even online. You may choose to work with a grief coach and/or a therapist. You want to find people and groups that support you in grieving at your own pace in your own way. They are there to help you create and hold the space in which you can safely explore and express difficult emotions that grief will throw your way.
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Grief Is Meant To Be Experienced
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Will it be difficult at times? Yes. Will there betimes of quiet reflection? Yes. Will you be able to control when one or the other will occur? No. Should you ignore dealing with your emotions and just hope that in time you will get over things? Absolutely not. By doing this you are opening up yourself to a life of suppression until the day comes when you can no longer hold back your emotions for they have grown stronger under the weight of your pressure at which time you have to do the work anyway.
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The way to healing and finding balance in your life is by engaging with your emotions. What are they saying to you? How do they make you feel? How do you deal with them? What have they taught you about yourself? How are they a part of you?
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Exploration, developing your method and "voice of self expression" and using it to release the unbalanced energy that comes with grief. This quest for healing and personal growth will support and guide your transitioning into a more harmonic and balanced state of being
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As a Certified Grief Coach and ACC I am here to partner with you on your grief journey.
Please click below to see how coaching can support and aid in your healing.
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